Kelly, I think this is a good example of where it is best to agree to disagree. There were numerous offers to help and others have offered guidance to the situation. Maybe, she is contacting them through PM's or emails, who knows? But, at the very least, hopefully, those offers have been accepted or the idea aborted altogether.
In my opinion, there has been ample opportunity to assist and if somebody can not handle a few internet posts without feeling alienated, what the hell is going to happen when they breed, or if something goes wrong, when the real crap starts flying
I appreciate being sensitive to someone's feelings, but, when brought on by one's own actions, and having the ability and time to rectify the situation, and not making the outward effort to do so, by asking questions and what not, what then; who wasted the "chance"?